Anal sex is becoming more and more popular among today’s couples, but unfortunately there are still some misconceptions and myths about the act that prevent some couples from taking the plunge.
The main concern about sodomy is often whether it is painful, and this fear is what prevents many people from trying it. Luckily for you, the Anal Kingdom has prepared a complete guide to anal sex to answer your wildest questions.
1. THE BIG QUESTION : IS ANAL SEX PAINFUL ?
There are many ideas about anal sex that are obviously wrong, and pain during anal intercourse is perhaps people’s main concern. In most cases, as long as you use lots of lubrication, anal sex is by no means painful.
Of course, if this is the first time you have tried this kind of practice, your anus is not used to it and you might feel a very slight pain, this is actually quite normal, just as you might have felt some pain during your first vaginal penetration.
Fortunately, if you feel a little pain during your first anal, know that it won’t last long and the pleasure will quickly take over.
We have prepared a checklist of what you need to do to avoid pain during your first sodomy :
DON'T EXPECT YOUR FIRST TIME TO BE LIKE A PORNO MOVIE.
After all, for any kind of sex, it makes sense that it’s not like porn. Above all, anal sex requires preparation, going wild and unprepared is exactly the path that leads to a painful relationship that leaves a bad experience and therefore will give you a negative opinion on the subject.
TALK TO YOUR PARTNER FIRST
Preparation means talking about it first. It may sound corny, but it’s crucial, especially if it’s your first time. Conversations about condoms, the moment when your partner has to stop if you think it’s going too far, setting limits, you shouldn’t be embarrassed to talk about it so that everything goes perfectly, it’s often repeated, but communication is the key to a happy couple.
PREPARE YOUR SPHINCTER MUSCLES
We advise you not to introduce something too big into your anus the first time. You need to train your anal sphincters to receive smaller things. So it’s best to start with fingers or other objects, and since we are the anal sex specialists, we have designed starter sets made especially for novices who want to try anal sex. These boxes contain plugs of increasing diameter and a specially designed shape so that a beginner can prepare his anus for his first sodomy.
Before trying your first full anal penetration, it is best to have first penetrated several times with sex toys or fingers of a smaller diameter. In other words, take your time, because every person is different.
2. WHY CAN ANAL SEX BE PAINFUL ?
The reason why anal sex can be slightly painful at first is because your sphincter muscles are not used to it. They are therefore naturally tight and are not used to being dilated. In other words, the anal muscles need time to stretch and become more flexible, which doesn’t happen overnight.
Again, it’s best to start slowly when you first try anal sex.
Other reasons why anal sex can be painful include the following :
AN UNDETECTED PROBLEM
If you experience regular pain every time you have anal sex, it is best to see a doctor as this is not normal. If you get a full medical exam, it could reveal a problem you didn’t know you had.
YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARDS SODOMY
Do you really want to have anal sex ? Just like vaginal sex, if you’re not interested in anal sex or just don’t feel like it, your body will understand. If you send a negative signal to your body, no matter how much formula or lubricant you use, it will hurt and it won’t work.
Remember that unlike the vagina, the anus does not automatically lubricate. This means that even if you’re used to anal sex, you still need to use lots of lube to make it go painlessly.
THINGS TO REMEMBER
- Prepare your sphincter muscles by stretching them well.
- Always use lubricant
- Do not force yourself
3. PAIN DURING ANAL SEX, WHAT TO DO ?
So, now you know the basics of anal sex and what to do to reduce the pain during the act. Now let’s review some general rules for anal sex.
These rules are especially important if you’ve never done it before. These rules include:
- Talk to your partner so you’re on the same page.
- Start your initiation with specific anal plugs or fingers
- Always use a lot of lubricant
- Never rush, take your time.
You can compare anal sex to touching your toes and leaving your legs straight… The first time you try it, it usually doesn’t work and it will hurt a little. However, once your muscles are accustomed and stretched, it becomes child’s play.
Well, it’s exactly the same with anal sex. Once your sphincter muscles get used to it, it will become much simpler.
You should also be aware that even after you have been “used” to anal sex, there may be days when it doesn’t work properly. It’s only natural. If you’re uncomfortable, stop and try again later.
There’s no reason to feel pain when you have sex, because even when you’re sure you don’t have a medical problem, sex is much more enjoyable when it’s not painful, unless you like hardcore sex, in which case it’s something else.
If you feel a stinging or rubbing sensation during anal sex, it means you need to use more lubricant. If you don’t add an extra dose of lubricant, your reluctance to go any further could cause your anus to tighten, which means even more pain. Again, good lubrication is the best suggestion.
If you are experiencing deeper, muscle-like pain, it is likely that your muscles are not yet sufficiently stretched. When this happens, go back to inserting something smaller into your anus and gradually use slightly larger toys with each use.
4. HOW TO HAVE OPTIMAL ANAL SEX ?
Your ultimate goal is to have painless anal sex, and although it may take some time, it will be worth it because once you master anal sex is really great.
In addition to the tips already mentioned, there are a few other things to keep in mind when you want to have enjoyable anal sex. Here they are :
NEVER USE AN ANAESTHETIC CREAM
Many couples think this is the solution when anal sex is painful, but it can actually do more harm than good. Because of the numbness, you may feel like you are using the right amount of lubricant, even if you are not. Once the anaesthesia is over, it will give way to pain if the ratio was too brutal, so avoid this kind of cream.
DON'T FORGET TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF AFTER ANAL SEX.
Instead of rushing to the bathroom after the report, wait a little. The anal muscles need 15 mins of rest after intercourse in order to return to their original shape. After this time, you can go to the bathroom and push to get the lubricant out and then take a shower to be all clean.
BLOOD DURING SODOMY
Don’t worry, it’s nothing serious. This usually means that you simply need to use more lubricant the next time you have sex. If there is a lot of blood or if your anus does not stop bleeding after about five minutes, you should see your doctor. There is no need to be shy with doctors: they have heard this before and can help you without judging you.
Subsequent care can help protect your anal area when it is sensitive, so that the next time it is even less painful. Enjoying painless buggery isn’t so hard if you follow a few simple rules.
The main thing to remember for a trouble-free sodomy is preparation. If you rush into this type of sex, it’s much more likely to be painful, which means you’re less likely to try again later.
Another suggestion for enjoying pain-free anal sex is that whoever performs the insertion should inform the other person when something is going to be inserted before it actually happens.
In other words, there should be no surprises with regard to the penetration itself. This way, the person receiving anal sex is better prepared and more relaxed.
5. A GOOD DOSE OF LUBRICANT : THE KEY TO SUCCESSFUL ANAL PENETRATION
There are currently hundreds of sexual lubricants on the market. So it’s not hard to choose one for anal sex. It depends a lot on the type of anal sex you plan to have, as different types of lubricant work best with certain types of anal sex.
There are no strict rules when it comes to choosing your lubricant. However, here are some general rules that you can apply:
- For fingering or anal massage, use coconut oil.
- For actual anal sex, use a silicone-based lubricant.
- You can also use flavoured lubricants.
- Use thick lubricants because thin lubricants are better suited to the vagina.
- Never use anesthetic creams or lotions.
You can also use water-based lubricants for anal sex, as they won’t hurt you, the only drawback is that the water is quickly absorbed, so you’ll have to use them several times during sex. If you use coconut oil or a silicone-based lubricant, you won’t have any problems.
There are also hybrid lubricants, which means they use both silicone and water as ingredients. If you’re interested in this type of lubricant, it’s a good idea to try a few and see which one works best for you. They’re all different, so all you need is a little experimentation to find the one that best suits your needs.
The most important thing to remember is that lubricants are a must when you have anal sex, even if you are a regular.
6. MYTHS AND MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT SODOMY
Like many other taboo subjects, there are many myths and misconceptions about anal sex. To truly enjoy this type of sex, you need to separate fact from fiction. Below are some of the concerns expressed by people who want to enjoy anal sex but still have misconceptions about it :
ANAL SEX IS DIRTY
The biggest concern is the stool that’s spreading everywhere. There is no need to worry, because the feces are actually contained a little higher than the anal region, in an area called the sigmoid colon. If you are healthy and have a regular transit, your anal canal is clean enough for good anal penetration. However, if you are particularly worried about this, you can get a pear enema which will cleanse your anus thoroughly.
IS IT POSSIBLE TO ENJOY ANAL SEX WITHOUT A PROSTATE ?
Of course I do. Men who have had their prostate removed can still enjoy anal sex. This has been proven many times in medical studies.
SHOULD I USE A CONDOM FOR SODOMY ?
If you are concerned about STDs such as AIDS and others, it is always best to use a condom. The risk of STD transmission is greater during anal intercourse than during vaginal intercourse.
ANAL SEX CAUSES IRREVERSIBLE DAMAGE
Again, not true. It is true that anal and vaginal sex can cause microtears if it is done improperly or without sufficient lubrication, but it is very unlikely that anal sex will cause serious damage, especially if you follow the rules outlined above.
In conclusion :
Anal sex is no longer the mystery it once was and women, as well as men, enjoy it with astonishing frequency. Concerns about the pain associated with the act are usually unfounded, especially when you realize that sodomy isn’t like in porn movies. It takes time and patience, but one day you too can be one of those people who practice unlimited anal sex and love it.